Sexual Assault and rape cases are increasing day by day all over the world. Children, adults, old people and even newborns are not safe. Few days back I saw a friend’s post on facebook about how worried she is as a mom of a girl. I read the entire post and I was able to relate to every single word she wrote and then I thought I never saw posts like these from parents of a boy. Does increasing Rape crime is none of their concern?
I am sharing the fb post that made me writing this post at first place. Asked my friend and she gave me permission to share her post here:
I have a daughter too. I am worried about her well being and I want to protect her from all evil things. ’Rape’ , ‘sexual assault’ – even saying these words is stressful and thinking about the victims is profoundly traumatic. But is this fear valid only for girl parents? Why we always think about protecting our girls, push boundaries around them and we leave rapists in open? What happens to the parents when they come to know that their son is a rapist? Do they feel as devastating as the victim’s parents? When a girl leaves home at night, parents are worried with thousands of haunting thoughts does this happen when a boy leaves at night too? Yes boy parents are also worried about mishappenings but Rape is not one of them.
I was raised in a conservative family and I followed every rule I was told till the time I was home. But now I realize that those rules were only for me and my sister. My brother didn’t have to stay home at nights. He doesn’t have to think what he is wearing. So the point here is: we train our girls to be safe from the time they are born, but we don’t bother talking to our boys about consent. We spend more time teaching our daughters to avoid being a rape victim than teaching our sons not to become rapist. Short skirt, being drunk, flirting, roaming around at nights and the list of excuses is long enough to blame the victims. But the only cause of rape is ‘Rapist’.
Rape and assault are inevitable forces. We cannot change the world but we are responsible for raising kind and generous kids. It must be difficult to talk to your kids about rape but it’s critically important. Teaching girls to be safe is not enough because an infant cannot protect herself. Parents should talk to their boys about respecting women and make them understand that assault is not justified in any damn situation. Parents of a boy should be confident that they have raised a good human being who respects women. Start teaching at an early age and remember that by teaching a girl we are saving only one girl, but by teaching a boy we might save many.
Parents, lets share the fear and make this world a better place to live TOGETHER!
Even though I’m a boy mom i still understand what it’s like being a woman. These girls need to be protected and defended at all cost
Great blog. But women and girls are not the only ones being raped. There are tons of boys who are being sexually molested as well. With that being said it’s important to teach both boys and girls safety.
majority of rape cases are men raped ‘women’ or ‘another man’ or a kid. We can teach our boys to be safe but teaching them about consent is more important.
This world is a terribly dark place. And I think we do have to also worry about boys getting raped. People are after boys and girls, babies and women. Even men can get raped. It just baffles me how this is even something our society struggles with, but the world is just dark and sinful. And only Jesus coming back will redeem it.
God helps those who helps themselves. So we need to start working on teaching our kids to respect humanity and be human.
I’m raising a girl and soon a boy! I have literally spent hours thinking about how do you raise a boy to be a great man? It will be an adventure, but something that is constantly on my mind!
you will do good . You have a daughter so you understands both sides of a coin.
Excellent viewpoint. I like your perspective.
this is a good post! Good. I worry all the time about my baby girl…
You are not alone Susie. All girl moms are in same boat.
I agree, but we can’t assume it’s only men raping women. We need to teach all of our children to be respectable and how to defend themselves.
I wrote this article by considering that more than 75% of cases are for women being raped by men. and I wish those rapists were raised as better human beings.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!! I have been saying this for such a long time. Teach your boys how to be respectable men. Consent is sexy.
You are welcome Gretchen !
This is a really strong and important message. I am going to share this everywhere right now! Thank you for being so many peoples voice!
I am glad you will be sharing it. We need to make sure that our girls are safe and for that boys needs to be taught.
I agree, the world is getting worse every day. I hate it when people say that women are asking for it by being out late, wearing a dress, whatever it may be. It has nothing to do with the victim and everything to do with the rapist.
Yes , no women asks for it.Men needs to understand this.
What a strong and important message! I completely agree that the culture we live in is to teach our daughters how to prevent it, but in all honesty, they shouldn’t have to prevent it. As a mom to both a boy and a girl, I will make sure to instill the message of consent into my son. But I will admit, I am fearful for my daughter because as you said no places are safe anymore.
I wish all the boy parents understand it like you do. thanks for reading
Thanks for reading Ankur !
Simple and straight . Let’s share the fear .
I wish for a world where there is no need for fear for anyone .